In order to respond to our needs, we must know them in the first place. We must tune into ourselves and ask and listen. That’s where doing a regular check-in comes in. This simply involves asking ourselves a variety of questions to see how we’re doing and what kinds of tweaks we need to make.
It’s one way we can reconnect to ourselves.
Because it doesn’t take much to get disconnected. For instance, we might not even realize the feelings we’re feeling, because they’re buried beneath daily routines and responsibilities. Sometimes, we’re just too busy, too consumed, too pressed for time, too something. It happens. That’s understandable and OK.
But this is why checking in with ourselves is so important. We move away from ourselves, and then we find a way to move back. Conducting regular check-ins gives us the opportunity to pause, to self-reflect, to wonder, to identify our wants and needs.
In May I shared this list of questions, which you can include in your check-in. Today, I’m sharing additional questions you can ask yourself and explore.
- How am I doing?
- How has this day/week/month been for me?
- What’s exhausting me right now?
- What, if anything, am I missing or grieving?
- What’s bringing me inner peace?
- What am I curious about — whether it’s about myself or my world?
- Where do I feel tension in my body?
- If I’m waking up in the middle of the night, what thoughts am I thinking?
- What’s been on my mind?
- What do I need in my closest relationships that I’m not getting right now?
- What parts of my life do I feel connected to?
- What parts of my life do I feel disconnected from?
- What movement is my body craving?
- What am I excited about?
- What am I unsure about?
- In what area of my life do I need to ask for help?
- What two or three things have I learned about myself?
- What two or three things have I learned in general that I can incorporate into my life?
- What have I seen that’s wowed me?
- How am I having fun?
- What kinds of activities have been replenishing me lately?
- Where have I been hard on myself?
- How can I be a bit more self-compassionate instead?
- What’s been inspiring me lately?
Pick the questions that you like. Jot them down on a sticky note. Write them in your journal. Put them in your phone. Ask yourself these questions daily, weekly and/or monthly (even if you only have 5 minutes). Record your responses. Discuss them with a loved one you deeply trust.
Then make the changes you need to make. Focus on what makes you feel good and contributes to your health and well-being. In other words, reconnect to your needs, and then respond to them with care and compassion.